To some this may seem so random but I am going to ask it anyway;
When someone you know, it may be an acquaintance, close friend, family member, co worker or even a neighbor has hurt feelings or is upset do you automatically start racing through your memory to see if you have said or done something to cause it?
That is usually how my mind works, I assume that I have something to do with others' problems. Let me give you a for instance.
Some time ago a lady that I attend church with was going through some very difficult times emotionally, almost to the point of suicide. I racked my brain to see if I had said something that offended her in some way and contributed to her depression. I realize now that it had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with me but I somehow convinced myself that it was my fault.
That got me to thinking about someone I had served in a calling with (a calling is an area of service given within the LDS church). We were discussing this very subject and she asked me how I personally reacted to other peoples problems. I related to her how I always assume that it was somehow my fault. She then told me how she reacts in the same situation, she would just assume that it had nothing to do with her and until someone told her different that is how she treated the situation. The complete opposite of me.
So, how about you. Do you react like me or do you react like my friend Cathy?