I can hear Bette Midler in my mind singing "You Gotta Have Friends" as I type this post.
I have been thinking a lot lately about friends...
Within the last year both of my daughters have moved away and the relationships I had with them left me feeling quite lonely. I have felt the need to fill that void and realized that I don't have a BFF that I could turn to.
Not too long ago I was having a particularly rough day as I thought about people who have created friendships that have evolved into BEST FRIENDS. I have always shied away from forming strong friendship bonds with people who profess that so and so is their best friend, I felt like there was no room for me somehow in that relationship.
As I pondered this idea I came to understand why I don't allow myself to get too close to ladies I am friends with, never let it get to a 'best friend' status. For reasons I won't go into here, I came to realize that it has more to do with my own mother and sister. I have never been particularly close to either one of them, they each have always considered that the two of them were each other's best friend. Somehow I convinced myself that I couldn't possibly be either of their best friends.
Don't get me wrong, I have many, many friends that I enjoy having fun with like going out to lunch, having crafting days, going craft store hopping, etc. On one particular day I was having a pretty good pity party, even shedding a few tears. I went to bed that night and poured my heart out to my Heavenly Father. I asked, "Heavenly Father why is it that I don't have a 'best friend'? I remember having a distinct feeling that, in order to have a best friend I needed to be a best friend. Whoa! I need to do my part here, imagine that?
Then the most amazing thing happened just a few days later. The phone rang and on the other end was a sweet friend that I have admired for her positive outlook on life and who has been in my life at least the last 25 years. She called out of the blue and said she was thinking about me and wanted to know if I would like to go shopping for home décor with her and then go out to lunch. Did she get a prompting to call me? Was Heavenly Father mindful enough of me and my feelings of loneliness that he called upon one of his dear daughters to be an answer to a prayer? ABSOLUTELY!!!
Since then I have had another friend that I serve with in church who has had a rather difficult event happen in her family. I have sensed that she needed someone to confide in, vent to and bounce ideas off of. I have had many opportunities to be around her at parties, book club, and church activities. As a matter of fact, her daughter and my son got married quite a few years ago but divorced a short time later which created some pretty awkward moments along with a few misunderstandings. Luckily we have been able to talk through those feelings and have come to love and respect one another. I feel confident that if I needed anything at all she would be there to give anything she could to help me. Is that what best friends do? I think so! Am I willing to do the same for her? Without hesitation!
As my adventure continues I can see how certain people have been put into my life to fill best friend rolls and perhaps my hesitancy has held me back. I am learning to do my part, feeling reassurance from above that this is what friendship is all about.
And last but not least, I have come to respect and admire some of the people I have gotten acquainted with through blogging. I am sure that most, if not all of them, would have the potential to be wonderful friends or potentially best friends if we weren't geographically challenged. I love seeing posts about families, trials, triumphs, challenges and sharing of talents that they share. To my blogging friends I say THANK YOU. It is not by chance I came to know you through blogging, I am sure of that.
Have I been blessed with lots of friends? Yes, and for that I am truly blessed.
Here are a group of us from almost two years ago. I am the one in the middle with the crown on.